Understanding your role and taking a step back is sometimes one of the most necessary things one should do to find clarity. Personally, I find myself always looking to jump from one great thing to another in an entire month! Keep in mind that I am not implying that having visions, goals and dreams are useless; that keeps the hope and excitement alive. Its when we get caught up in the "could-be, should-be" mentality, is when I truly believe we get flustered.
A few weeks ago I dealt with a moment of self doubt as well as self worth. I took any situation given to me, and flipped it around feeling sorry for myself, not worthy enough or just not deserving. More than half of this moment was created in my head; no facts, just what I thought people were thinking, saying or reacting. But heres the issue that I couldn't comprehend at first... it was a thought.
If I could, in that moment, actually hear something that I could use as evidence that I wasn't the best of me, then this would be o.k. to think or feel. Because then I could actually work on whatever it was or just never say or do that again! But since I did not I assumed of the worst.
Looping back to your role. Whether your role in that moment is to be a good friend, a co-worker, a leader of the pack or a significant other-- knowing that you are doing the best you can as that ROLE and nothing less, should be enough. Not doing the bare minimum but actually doing your part and then some. Trying to do too much where it over compensates your role in the NOW is where things can start to go buck wild. like W I L D.
Lets use this blog for example. I know its not a website that would take off within its first year of being created. I have to promise myself to continue to work on it a little bit each day/week/month, market and publish it at the right time and place, and then make sure all of the content is eye catching and relatable to the reader. But if I sit here, writing 10 different articles and recipes and then try to jump to the next idea, lets say, a sister site or adding e-commerce. That is a whole other ballpark of a project that would just get in the way of where I should be, in the NOW.
So don't take it personally if you don't think you are where you need to be or that you are not doing the best you can-- you know if you were doing less of what your "role" is and you will soon know when you are just trying to hold on to too much at once. Take a handful, enjoy what you have taken and wait until you are actually ready for another handful before you start again. (I am using a bag of mini pretzels as a visual ;)) Understand YOUR duty for every day instead of an entire month; of course devise a plan, but then get back to where you ARE.