This year I have decided not to make any “New Year’s resolutions.” Perhaps its because the last year flew by so quickly in it’s final stretch, that I barely had time to think about it. #NoDaysOff Or simply, I didn’t quite “complete” my 2016 resolutions... (I honestly couldn’t tell you what they were...) which starts to make me feel pretty bad about myself. The goal is the eliminate the negativity that goes along with expectations and more "areas opportunity." I know, sounds like your jobs nice way of saying you could do/be more. ;) To be completely honest with you, as I look back on my 2016 I don’t feel bad or unsuccessful because I do what I strived to do. I tried. Everyday. Some days more than others. But I didn't avoid any of it and I didn't fail. This year I grew a lot, learned a lot and accomplished a lot. Instead, I am looking at 2017 as a continuation without the drama. Just because I didn't do A,B, and C doesn't mean I didn't gain 1,2,3... See where I am heading?
No rules. From tv series, movies and even books, Ican get caught up in the idea of how things “Should be.” Lets use the example of “The Bachelor/Bachelorette” on Bravo. I watched for the first time half of the season with the beautiful and infectious, Jojo. My brain didn't burn up in flames but it did worse. First of all; the odds are 50/50; you find love or you don’t. Some contestants were luckier than most. Cool. YES, if you were surrounded by the same twenty people for a time period and one prospective lover, with no “real life” shit going on (I am talkin' about your family, friends, and job) then you could fall in love. If you could take long walks on the beach, have romantic & extravagant dinners/vacations and look cute/handsome 99% of the time, yeah, you could also find your person. Sure, be entertained by entertainment, but please, if it doesn't work out for you the way it does on tv, doesn't mean your life is anything less!! (Now that I got that off my chest... Moving on.) Look, like I said, magical, things could happen in real life, except that it doesn’t play out like the scripts. The pockets of detail real life has for us are gifts. Maybe less reality tv and more... Game of Thrones!? I like that idea. I LOVE every last detail about this series, I am starting to believe I am the Queen of Dragons. ;)
So why do we compare OUR real lives with ones we see in the media? Living a "real life" with the idea that there are “no rules” gives us more freedom to be what we need and as we are. Lets visually get out of the box for a second; its wild, full of options and doors that lead to somewhere. Picture a Target store: they have everything most of the time or things we don't need. LOL Where would you go? What do you find when you get "lost" or make a "wrong turn?" If you think getting laid off your job is unlucky... what would you do next? Apply for another? Probably. At least sooner or later... Or would you take time to yourself for a moment? Take a ceramics class for the time being? The possibilities are really endless if we take away the rules and there are NO wrong answers. Plus, it would feel so shitty if you don’t stick to your "Whole 30" diet every single day. It will feel morel like life as it is. A turning point. Lesson learned. #check
Don't get me wrong. Resolutions are cool. They are fun to make and an enjoyable challenge for yourself to keep these resolutions. There is joy in the idea of making a resolution. The joy in a guideline. The trill. It should be exciting; it puts fire in our veins and fireworks in our brain. It keeps hope alive as well as the dream. Life gets juicer because of the interesting things we do with it. Make resolutions if you wish. But don’t let it take away your joy. Open up all of your windows and doors and let life in.
The origin for the word resolution according to Oxford Dictionaries starts with the Latin word resolvere; to loosen or release and the English world resolve; to settle or find a solution, a firm decision. TO me just reading it this way says: Loosen your grip from the rules, Let life happen. THIS. That. I can live with.
Side note: Some rules & resolutions are necessary like driving a vehicle. No brainer, DUH!! So please don’t assume just because you’re living a rule proof life doesn’t mean you break the law or something. WE are talking spiritual gain here and a healthier lifestyle. SO, from me to you, wishing you a happy & healthy new year. More intentions and less expectations. More goals and more dreams. More coffee and more cuddles. More sweat and more naps. May the odds be in your favor and if not, don’t fuss, forgive, be grateful & then another step forward!
I am taking a different approach. Make a list of things I want to try to do this year. No rules no boundaries. Goals. Intentions. I love lists. ;)
My Personal Life List of Opportunities:
- Blog. Even if it is once a week.
- Take better photos.
- Be more decisive.
- Keep it clean: more veggies & fruit every day.
- Focus on the people who truly "show up" for me.
- More massages & physical therapy.
- More yoga.
- More love & peace in my love life.
- Ownership of my personality, skills and quirks.
- Take a relaxing vacation for myself.
- Keep reading, learning and doing!!!
"Resolution." Oxford Dictionaries. N.p., n.d. Web. 2 Jan. 2017.